Roommates, Apartments, and Independence

[Naza Sutera]

Essentially, I wanted to open a topic to get some advice for a particular situation going on in my life. However, I feel that it would be more of a service to the community if I broaden the topic to discuss anything pertaining to finding a place to rent (or own), dealing with roommates/housemates, being on your own, and whatever else falls under that umbrella. Without further adieu, I'd like to open the discussion by asking you guys what you would do in my situation...

 

So, I am looking to move into my own apartment by this summer. I've been looking around all over the metropolitan area, and I am willing to live almost anywhere from Downtown Orlando to the suburban areas; I just want a 30-minute work commute. I've seen a lot of cool places that are in my price range (though to be honest, I don't really have one; if I can afford it without cleaning myself out financially and i like the place/area, then that'll sell me), and depending on where the place is, there are drastic differences in the monthly rent of course. The two areas/places I am most interested in is a 3-bedroom place near where I currently live for around 8-9 hundred a month, and some 1-bedroom/studios downtown for about twelve hundred. Just hearing that, you'd think, "Hell, get the three bedroom!" But I am in a bit of a dilemma.

 

I am currently moving out of my current places because there is a situation that I do not want to deal with anymore. I mean, it's not some Nightmare on Elm Street bullshit where bitches in the next room are screaming at each other at 2am or some crazy ass drama situation where I'm walking on eggshells with someone. Plus, I am paying far less in rent and utilities than I would if I were to have my own place. But at the same time, I don't want to deal with the person in the center of it all, or the situation in general...--What? What was that? Work it out you say? Okay well see, the thing about that is we are all grown up in the situation, but if the person can't respect his/herself or those around him, thats not something for ME to work out. I've tried to help this person all I could, but there comes a point in a person's life where they have to figure it out on their own, and it is not worth it to stress yourself over someone else not fixing their own problem(s).

 

Lemme take it back to the apartments for a moment. As I said, the bigger and cheaper place is around the way from where I currently live, and the smaller more expensive place is in Downtown. If I get the bigger place, I'm saving a few hundred dollars in rent, but I have the nagging possibility of this sorry-ass individual knocking on my door asking for a place to lounge around when he burns his bridges elsewhere. On the other hand, if I move downtown, its a smaller place, more rent, but its a nice apartment/area, and im less likely to have a certain someone arriving at my doorstep.

 

Now, of course, the final decision will be mine. But I just want to know a different perspective than mine, as there may be something I haven't considered. So what do you guys think I should do? Should I move all the way downtown away from the problem and pay more in rent? Should I get the bigger place near home and possibly deal with the crap again? Or should I even move at all since I am paying so little in rent and utilities right now?

Edited February 21, 2015 by OneUnder

[Jeroscope]

Now for a public experiment to see if double standards exist.

 

So the biggest problem you have is when dis individual is asking a brutha for a place to crash? Why not just say no? And if he threats, you charge his ass.

Edited February 21, 2015 by OneUnder

[Naza Sutera]

Now for a public experiment to see if double standards exist.

 

So the biggest problem you have is when dis individual is asking a brutha for a place to crash? Why not just say no? And if he threats, you charge his ass.

Well duhhhh, but I'm just at the point where I wanna avoid him and the situation all together. It's pissing me off that bad, and I dont wanna be incarcerated for slapping his ass.

Edited February 21, 2015 by OneUnder

[Jeroscope]

Just tell the guy to fuck off, and if he doesn't, get a restraining order. And if he still doesn't, HIS ass gets incarcerated, not yours.

Edited February 21, 2015 by OneUnder

[CrypticQuery]

Refrain from making racially derogatory remarks in the future.

[Naza Sutera]

Well... I was hoping for more of a discussion, but, yeah. I guess thats pretty cut and dry. Maybe I think too much.

Anyway, lets not make this thread a waste.

So as far as the delimma with the apartments themselves... What are your guys' opinions?

[CrypticQuery]

This advice's effectiveness may vary based upon the laws of your area, but if the person in question does not live within your residence or anywhere within the immediate area and continually returns to bother you, call the police.  Harassment would seem like a logical charge here, and perhaps even trespassing, but even them just sending him away is a good start.  A chronic history of returning to the location is good for making a case for a restraining order as well.  Take this with a grain of salt though; I'm no legal expert by any means.

 

If you're willing to make the investment into moving downtown, that is the path of least resistance.  It may save you some trouble in the long run physically/mentally, but will affect you financially for sure. 

 

Whatever you do, do not initiate a confrontation.  They tend to turn ugly fast.  Let the law handle it, or leave the area.  It's up to you in the end.