Can males and females ever really just be friends?

[rainfyre66]

So I watched Zack and Miri Make A...(you know) tonight and it made me ponder if men and women ever can be completely platonic friends, or is there always going to be some level of attraction on at least one, if not both people's part? I'm not talking about platonic acquaintances either, like a friend of a friend at the lunch table or a cool co-worker. Good friends.

I'm going with yes, they can. I have a few good guy friends that are really just like brothers to me that I have never had or considered any sort of attraction towards them, and some have been/are married so I know it's mutual. What are your guys' thoughts?

[Star Fox Runner]

I believe its possible, there are some girls that I'm really good friends with and I don't feel attracted to them at all!

[Chitty-Chitty-Bum-Bum~]

yes.I have a female friend who i only simply "like".

[Falcory]

For me, it depends. Sometimes being friends with a girl, kinda causes me to have feelings for them after awhile. Then some girls I've been just friends with for years. I dunno. I usually classify that your soulmate should be your BF. But I'm friends with some girls that are my BF so I guess it depends.

[Kursed]

it's definatly possible.

[Guest DRL]

To me it depends, if you have a very good friend then you (or her) might want to go futher than friendship. However sometimes you might very good friends and yet feel no 'attraction' to each other. I think it varies from person to person.

[Kursed]

To me it depends, if you have a very good friend then you (or her) might want to go futher than friendship. However sometimes you might very good friends and yet feel no 'attraction' to each other. I think it varies from person to person.

it's also a cultural thing.

[Guest Julius Quasar]

It can happen...yeah...I got a female friend or 2 like that....

[Mr. Krystal]

I'm extremely shy around women single women. But around those women who are married or otherwise spoken for, I'm totally cool, great friends with, simply because there is no chance of a relationship. So, the potential for a relationship, along with the person's type, determines if it is possible.

[Falcory]

I'm extremely shy around women single women. But around those women who are married or otherwise spoken for, I'm totally cool, great friends with, simply because there is no chance of a relationship. So, the potential for a relationship, along with the person's type, determines if it is possible.

Very true.

[Caat01]

I think is possible that men can have female friends without feeling something

but it depends of the way as you see her and

another thing could be the form they treat you

some mens start feeling something because of that.

i have like 3 female friends and i only see them as friends

[Vindr]

To be straight up and since nobody pays attention to my posts, Imma say this.

Some people act like guys and girls live on different planets and are pretty scared of each other.  I sit with a group of mixed boys and girls at my table during lunch, no biggie, we're all friends, we can say jokes and do whatever without pressure.

Stop acting like every girl you talk to is a potential date.  Act like their of the same gender, and a potential FRIEND!

[Asper Sarnoff]

To be straight up and since nobody pays attention to my posts, Imma say this.

Some people act like guys and girls live on different planets and are pretty scared of each other.  I sit with a group of mixed boys and girls at my table during lunch, no biggie, we're all friends, we can say jokes and do whatever without pressure.

Stop acting like every girl you talk to is a potential date.  Act like their of the same gender, and a potential FRIEND!

Second this^

Tough I tend to save my some of my grossest jokes for my male buddies. :hehe:

[The Green Fox]

Yeah, brothers and sisters.

[Falcory]

Just something I'd thought I'd add....Females can be GREAT friends. XD I just had a blast today because of one.

[rainfyre66]

Ah, so most are in agreement...but here's somethings to chew on...just because you don't have feelings for your friend of the opposite sex doesn't mean that they don't have some kind of feelings for you that you don't know about or notice. Also, while you may not originally become friends with someone just because you're attracted to them, and may not feel anything for them for awhile, there could be some sort of undetected attraction to their personality, and an event may occur that makes you see your friend in a new, fuller light that thereby causes the attraction. Is the only way to ever truly be friends with someone of the opposite sex if there is no lasting attraction, such as if you both hook up in any way (I don't want to know! Let's keep it PG here), and have no physical chemistry, thereby squelching any other desire to be with that person as anything other than platonic? Think about it.

And again, remember that I'm not talking about acquaintances, internet buddies, etc. I'm talking about people that take a more personal investment in your life.

[ThePointingMan]

YES! Rather then think of someone as a brother/sister, I am friends with my sister, and I'm sure most of you are too.

However, in high school, I don't "Hangout", with any of the girls, they are all just so, i think this is the correct word, spiteful.

I have a friend who is a girl who is in university/college I dunno which.

[Vindr]

Most of you watch too much anime.

Drama doesn't have to enter a relationship just because a guy is friends with a girl.  They can stay friends.  Regardless of all this 'chemistry' and 'feelings' and 'attraction' and 'personallity' and all these other words used to make Fox/fanboy(author) x Krystal fan fictions.

In fact, I find a friendship relationship in better standing than two people who are dating.  I mean when you date, it's pretty much either bound to end or you're pressured to get married.  And if you feel pressured, then it's really not what you want to do if you step back and look at it.  Thus, a friendship is simple, you hang out, joke, ect.  No pressure.

As for spiteful, I'm not sure, I'm friends with a girl, but she already has a boyfriend, although I do buy her lunch when she doesn't have any money, help her out on school work, and talk to her.  No biggie, we're friends.  Then again, I live in a state where you could go up and hug someone on the street and they won't pop a cap in your ***.

[ThePointingMan]

"ANIME" *PUKES ALL OVER THE PLACE* "I hates the stuff"

hmmhmm, I dislike T.V. xept for Fraser, but that's beside the point...

However, in high school, I don't "Hangout", with any of the girls, they are all just so, i think this is the correct word, spiteful.

I would like to make a correction, they are either, to spiteful, or a boar to talk to.

[Sabre]

One related cleche that drives me up the wall is the american one where people accendely touch hands, usually after dropping stuff, and then there a poltonic romance. It make no sence.

[Vindr]

...an overused movie statement, yes, but when people actually do this in real life, then they really need to get out more and stop watching daytime soap operas...

[Vindr]

Actually no...

(----->)Real life (<-----), is a lot different.  People can be friends without being all sparky or weird or hot for each other.  Maybe this is possible in however ways you live your life.  But once again, this is like another girl that I go to school with.

One day she'll be normal, then the next she'll be all 'drama queen.'

Which is what brings us to my next point: self created drama.

I was just sitting at home one evening, and she calls me up...

'I'm so over you...'

'I'm sorry, this is [me] you're speaking to.'  (I told her my name, those weren't my exact words but I edited...)

'Yeah, I know, I'm over you...'

'But we didn't even start.'

But according to her self created drama, we did go out on several occasions when I didn't notice it.  Maybe it was because she was hanging on to another one of her friends or maybe because I didn't notice her.  We're maybe friends at the most.  Then again, this girl is like the ultimate Twilight reader.

My point is that we make our own drama, involving chemistry, spark, pizazz, and shamwow and all that.  Maybe it's just because we're bored or we read and watch too much soap opera like media influences.

[Asper Sarnoff]

I'll just ignore the harsh jabs at anime lovers and continue on with my post. >_>

If a relationship is possible (neither is married, etc.) then no. Admit it: one of them (if not both) is just waiting for a little spark! ;D

You believe so? Well then, I'm just waiting for the spark. :wink:

[ThePointingMan]

I'll just ignore the harsh jabs at anime lovers and continue on with my post. >_>

If a relationship is possible (neither is married, etc.) then no. Admit it: one of them (if not both) is just waiting for a little spark! ;D

Heh heh, Sorry...

Lemme see, if their is a major age difference, then it's definitely easier not to be struck emotionally, but not always the case