Virginity

[Guest Julius Quasar]

Eh, I couldn't get laid if I was a brick! 

*spits contemptuously on the ground*

[Redeemer]

It's overrated hon, you're one of the pure few. :)

[Guest Julius Quasar]

It's overrated hon, you're one of the pure few.

Really?  Well...thanks. 

[Redeemer]

Yes, really! You're very welcome my friend.   :friends:

["User"]

I like your honesty Redeemer

I lost my virginity when I was 25 and then I ended up being betrayed of sorts by my ex.  It pained me deeply for 3 months but then I moved on.  Like you, I wish I still had it

Since then however I've learned from my mistake and it's made me a better person as a result.

[Steve]

This is all overrated, it's not like you lost your soul for losing your virginity, and it's not like you are not in the VIP club if you still have it  :P

["User"]

This is all overrated, it's not like you lost your soul for losing your virginity, and it's not like you are not in the VIP club if you still have it 

That's subjective.  Some people value virginity quite highly.  They aren't the same thing I know but for many people it's nice to lose your virginity to someone you either deeply care about and want to live with or get married to :)

[Steve]

That's subjective.  Some people value virginity quite highly.  They aren't the same thing I know but for many people it's nice to lose your virginity to someone you either deeply care about and want to live with or get married to

I kinda meant it in a sense in where "nothing is different, you are still a human, not a super human or a more popular guy"  :)

["User"]

I kinda meant it in a sense in where "nothing is different, you are still a human, not a super human or a more popular guy" 

So more in a literal, "realistically" scene...gotcha :)

[Sabre]

I kinda meant it in a sense in where "nothing is different, you are still a human, not a super human or a more popular guy" 

Plus most peoples first encounter is a horrible mess of arriving early or not getting on the train at all due to nurves.

Lol, stupid song popped into my head. "What is love? Baby don't hurt me. Don't hurt me. No more". AAAAAARGH.

Your ealier posts about not knowing love had me thinking of the song

"And they call it puppy looooooooOOOOooooove."

[Redeemer]

This is all overrated, it's not like you lost your soul for losing your virginity, and it's not like you are not in the VIP club if you still have it 

Yeah, but as a girl, I tend to day dream about "what could have been more romantic". I'm really an old romantic at heart, and I wish I had lost my virginity in a much more romantic, enjoyable and meaningful way, haha. Of course I was still the same afterwards, but I walked funny for a week.

[Steve]

Yeah, but as a girl, I tend to day dream about "what could have been more romantic". I'm really an old romantic at heart, and I wish I had lost my virginity in a much more romantic, enjoyable and meaningful way, haha. Of course I was still the same afterwards, but I walked funny for a week.

Oh I know what you mean, but sadly, that's only seen in romantic movies and such, like Sabre said, first times are full of awkward moments, specially if both parties are new in the field. You can, however, count backwards, like instead of having a first time, just go "this is cero time, thus invalid" and subtract numbers until you feel you had a wonderful time, then, you can equal that to the first time. Which makes all this nonsense cause math and sex don't add to each other 

[Redeemer]

Haha yeah first times are awkward. And I'm keeping math away from sex, I don't want it spoiling my boyfriend time. XD

You can still have a romantic time though. I remember New Year's Eve night, I spent that at my boyfriend's place and he surprised me with loads of candles, chocolates and wine. It was lovely. And that was when I realised that I wished I had waited to share my virginity with someone special. He was the first one to ever make an effort like that for me. I actually cried, it was lovely. :)

[Guest Julius Quasar]

This is all overrated, it's not like you lost your soul for losing your virginity, and it's not like you are not in the VIP club if you still have it 

Duh.  I agree with you there, but I for the longest time I couldn't help but feel ashamed for still having it.

It was like not knowing how to tie my shoes.

[Redeemer]

Yeah but shoes without laces are easier to wear. :)

[Kursed]

This is all overrated, it's not like you lost your soul for losing your virginity, and it's not like you are not in the VIP club if you still have it 

I'd have to agree with that

[Sabre]

Yeah but shoes without laces are easier to wear.

We need turbo laces from back to the future.

[Guest Julius Quasar]

We need turbo laces from back to the future.

Totally!

I'll probably never lose my virginity, and end up hanging myself in my parents' basement. (j/k) :P

[Redeemer]

You never know Julius, you might be one of those lucky people that, although they meet "the one" later in life, they are spared the agony of shit relationships and drama llamas that everyone else seems to dive head first into.  :friends:

["User"]

You never know Julius, you might be one of those lucky people that, although they meet "the one" later in life, they are spared the agony of shit relationships and drama llamas that everyone else seems to dive head first into. 

I didn't meet my first GF until I was 25 so that point has merit.

Currently right now I'm been trying to help some girl with the exact same types of problems Redeemer.  She's miserable and sometimes it's better not to be involved in relationships just for the sake of company or being with someone - if the rest of the relationship is damaging. :/

[Steve]

Currently right now I'm been trying to help some girl with the exact same types of problems Redeemer.  She's miserable and sometimes it's better not to be involved in relationships just for the sake of company or being with someone - if the rest of the relationship is damaging.

I had a friend, he was actually a former member from this forum, he spent 4 years in an online relationship with a bitch, she was controlling, cheater and all sort of bad stuff. He said he didn't care, that it was only a phase for her. Even tho I tried my best for 3 of those 4 years to convince him that he was in bad hands, he never listened, at the end, this killed our friendship (for others too) because I was fed off. Sometimes, people just can't understand, and love can be blinding, in bad ways often or people can be dumb.

["User"]

I had a friend, he was actually a former member from this forum, he spent 4 years in an online relationship with a bitch, she was controlling, cheater and all sort of bad stuff. He said he didn't care, that it was only a phase for her. Even tho I tried my best for 3 of those 4 years to convince him that he was in bad hands, he never listened, at the end, this killed our relationship because I was fed off. Sometimes, people just can't understand, and love can be blinding, in bad ways often or people can be dumb.

I've had two prior online relationships and I've made them work out somewhat because I've visited the people in question a few times and they came to live with me for a week or so.  But those types of relationships have their own unique challenges, higher cost for example.

[Redeemer]

Currently right now I'm been trying to help some girl with the exact same types of problems Redeemer.  She's miserable and sometimes it's better not to be involved in relationships just for the sake of company or being with someone - if the rest of the relationship is damaging.

Yeah tell me about it, I've done that before. When you try to break up with the guy, he guilt trips you into staying with him. It sucks. But I've been there before, and looking back I wished I had listened to my friends. You have to convince, not advise, her to be strong. Give her a rock (no, not to smash his head in, I mean metaphorically) and try to guide her into seeing how much better off she would be if she wasn't with him. Don't push her, because then you can make her mad at you, but be honest and listen to everything.

Alternatively, give her a rock to smash his head in.

["User"]

Yeah tell me about it, I've done that before. When you try to break up with the guy, he guilt trips you into staying with him. It sucks. But I've been there before, and looking back I wished I had listened to my friends. You have to convince, not advise, her to be strong. Give her a rock (no, not to smash his head in, I mean metaphorically) and try to guide her into seeing how much better off she would be if she wasn't with him. Don't push her, because then you can make her mad at you, but be honest and listen to everything.

Alternatively, give her a rock to smash his head in.

Lol. Well we were up all last night and we discussed everything. She thanked me for all my help last night and thinks highly of me.  But she's had a troubled childhood growing up with no father, many past relationships that haven't lasted that long, etc.  And your advice is pretty much what I've been using on her....except for the rock of course   Maybe I should get into the counseling field or something...many people say I do a damn good job.

[Redeemer]

I study mental health and counselling and it's fantastic. I've always been good at advice, people always seem to come to me for it so I figured I'd sharpen those skills. It's been a good idea so far.