Love Life Talk

[Steve]

No comment.

No. If I did, then I wasn't clear. I can't get a girlfriend because I lack body language. Since dating is all social cues, it's not going to happen unless I meet another autistic or someone who doesn't mind logic over cues.

Maybe that's your whole problem, you put yourself a lot of "high" standards, and you don't even want to go through the basics, or even become a better person? seriously, unless you go posting "need woman with as much "brain"and "logic" as I do" nothing is going to happen, for that, you really, definitely need luck, my friend, I said being patient is one thing, but I highly doubt your princess will end up knocking at your door, for your tastes, you really need to go out there and look, internet is your friend, not every girl in this world likes to hang out and do the social thing. But since I predict another "you are wrong, so wrong" then I guess, goooooood luck, you will need it. Just stop posting that love has to suck or that it has to fail, it's really getting in everyone's nerves.

[Gtline fox hunter 300]

That fat kid atempts to kiss my girl, but before he does i punch him in the face. he's really starting to tick me off. he's also got a weird yet funny face that creeps us out like this   and if he tries to do stuff to try to hook up with her i'm gona kick his butt.

["User"]

That fat kid atempts to kiss my girl, but before he does i punch him in the face. he's really starting to tick me off. he's also got a weird yet funny face that creeps us out like this   and if he tries to do stuff to try to hook up with her i'm gona kick his butt.

I know you were replying to me with this post, but next time do you think you should just quote my post instead of posting a reply a few pages later?

[Gtline fox hunter 300]

well he needs to stay away.

[Sabre]

Maybe that's your whole problem, you put yourself a lot of "high" standards, and you don't even want to go through the basics, or even become a better person? seriously, unless you go posting "need woman with as much "brain"and "logic" as I do" nothing is going to happen, for that, you really, definitely need luck, my friend, I said being patient is one thing, but I highly doubt your princess will end up knocking at your door, for your tastes, you really need to go out there and look, internet is your friend, not every girl in this world likes to hang out and do the social thing. But since I predict another "you are wrong, so wrong" then I guess, goooooood luck, you will need it. Just stop posting that love has to suck or that it has to fail, it's really getting in everyone's nerves.

No, I won't be going "WRONG!" because you're coming around to the world of the real.

As for looking for brain, it's all I have really. That and stregth, but I'm not fasionablely built and breaking bones scares more then it endears. Also I did mention I'm autistic.

As for having high standards. What happened to your 'true love finds you' position? Just because I'm a working class pleb with a brain and no six pack means I should settle for a slapper with the morals of a zoo animal that I share no interests with?

[Thu'um]

aha but a defftion is a universul meaning. and my deftion of love is diffrent form yours so . making it an opion and not a fact or the same thing

That may be so, but I was simply correcting you because there IS a definition of love and to say otherwise is foolhardy. 

[Steve]

No, I won't be going "WRONG!" because you're coming around to the world of the real.

As for looking for brain, it's all I have really. That and stregth, but I'm not fasionablely built and breaking bones scares more then it endears. Also I did mention I'm autistic.

As for having high standards. What happened to your 'true love finds you' position? Just because I'm a working class pleb with a brain and no six pack means I should settle for a slapper with the morals of a zoo animal that I share no interests with?

I never said you should go  for a person with 0 interests to share. It's more about "look outside the box" instead of  "it has to be exactly like this". True love is not about finding someone exactly like you, it has to be someone that fills you, and that can come with differences, but since you don't believe in true love, this statement is pointless. I'm sorry if you are autistic, but that excuse is getting old, really old,  you are not alone in the world with said health issue so get over it, not everyone will tell you "go away" because of this, and I told you, you don't need to be a super social dude.

Again, I don't see us getting in an agreement here, maybe I'm wrong, maybe you are wrong. I'm sorry if you have had a tough time and I'm sure you don't need me going into "patronize" mode, so good luck, I just plain hope your overview about "love" will change one day, not into Disney crappy love story, but as in "you know, love exists".

[Sarita]

aha but a defftion is a universul meaning. and my deftion of love is diffrent form yours so . making it an opion and not a fact or the same thing

Fine, you want the definition of love? Here.

love? ?[luhv]  Show IPA noun, verb, loved, lov·ing.

–noun

1.

a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

2.

a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

3.

sexual passion or desire.

4.

a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.

5.

(used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?

6.

a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.

7.

sexual intercourse; copulation.

8.

( initial capital letter ) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.

9.

affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.

10.

strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.

11.

the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.

12.

the benevolent affection of god for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.

13.

Chiefly Tennis . a score of zero; nothing.

14.

a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L.

And that's just as a noun. Want anything else?

[Redeemer]

No, I won't be going "WRONG!" because you're coming around to the world of the real.

As for looking for brain, it's all I have really. That and stregth, but I'm not fasionablely built and breaking bones scares more then it endears. Also I did mention I'm autistic.

As for having high standards. What happened to your 'true love finds you' position? Just because I'm a working class pleb with a brain and no six pack means I should settle for a slapper with the morals of a zoo animal that I share no interests with?

There aren't only 2 types of women you know. You make it sound as though there are the super smart ones and then there are the slappers. There are loads of different women out there, and chasing after one type may make you seem rather shallow remember. If you set yourself a standard, it's clear that you're reducing your chances of finding a mate.

And you keep bringing up autism. You can only use that so many times Sabre, you're still a human being and you've still got the same chances as everyone else who is on this forum. My very first boyfriend was autistic.

I think if you tried to look at this from a more positive perspective, it'll make things easier for you. You sound so wounded but it's not the end of the world. :)

["User"]

aha but a defftion is a universul meaning. and my deftion of love is diffrent form yours so . making it an opion and not a fact or the same thing

Maybe you should go back and read the definition of "definition".

"A definition is a passage describing the meaning of a term (a word, phrase or other set of symbols), or a type of thing. The term to be defined is the definiendum (plural definienda). A term may have many different senses or meanings. For each such specific sense, a definiens (plural definientia) is a cluster of words that defines it."

My "opinion" on what love is, (which is based on fact btw) is perfectly valid.  Of course, I'd prefer it if you enlighten me with YOUR definition of love.  :wink:

[TheRedFox8]

My love life?

Nobody.

I prefer to remain alone. Spare myself the drama.

[Thu'um]

there is not much too my definition  as i am only 13. so surly your is not the same as mine.  :P

[Sabre]

There aren't only 2 types of women you know. You make it sound as though there are the super smart ones and then there are the slappers. There are loads of different women out there, and chasing after one type may make you seem rather shallow remember. If you set yourself a standard, it's clear that you're reducing your chances of finding a mate.

And you keep bringing up autism. You can only use that so many times Sabre, you're still a human being and you've still got the same chances as everyone else who is on this forum. My very first boyfriend was autistic.

I never said there was, but I don't believe my standards for "Someone who isn't an idiot" are unreasonable. I don't think I could have a relationship with someone stupid because I couldn't respect them. Those bimbos I met years ago are a perfect example. I couldn't stand them.

As for the autism, I tend to not mention it if I can. Here though it's totoally relevent. Any kind of spontanious romance, from meeting at a club to co-workers who were just talking and it went from there, they are all riddled with hundereds of social cues which I/we don't recieve or broadcast. So no, my chances aren't the same, they are much much lower. For an example. A friend who has known me years thought I was going to punch him when all was doing was eating fast food with him. He started appolgising for stuff he hadn't done. Turned out I was unknowing using body language of someone who was angry and about to fight. He's know me years and that kind of stuff still happens. As such I need to find someone who is willing to put up with that and, more importantly, willing to give me a chance beyond social cues and the like, which is not someone I have met yet. Some people claim to see past that stuff, but they don't realise how important it is to themselves.

I think if you tried to look at this from a more positive perspective, it'll make things easier for you. You sound so wounded but it's not the end of the world

??? what could be possative about my current situation? If you mean I should stop QQing about, I don't. But over idealized crap annoies me because it never, and will never, work. I already explained the rest of the reasons before, but the main one is real life doesn't work like that.

[Kid_Cortet]

Talking to someone, things seem to be going well.....-crosses fingers-

[Redeemer]

Still Sabre, you're a smart guy and I can tell you would know how to treat a woman well, that will work. Maybe not now, but I believe it will.

[Sideways]

Sabre's not the only one who's autistic here. 

I have a mild form of Aspegers and it doesn't stop me from being who I am. Sabre is totally correct though.. Autistic people tend to miss social cues. I've been lucky to find someone who loves me for me, and I can say the same about her. She treats me like nobody else ever has, and for once in my life, I'm happy with my relationship with her.  :D

[Sapphire]

Well, me and my girl broke up last night...:/

["User"]

Well, me and my girl broke up last night...

I'm sorry to hear...it's a really painful feeling. :(

[Guest Julius Quasar]

Well, me and my girl broke up last night...

Damn, that sucks.

[Gtline fox hunter 300]

Dude, i feel ur pain man, when i was trying to show my gf's dad that i was the right one for her, my brother cums outa no where running round the house squirting silly string. I SAID, "JOSH STAY IN UR ROOM TIL I SAY U COME OUT!" but then my gf and her dad left leaving a note that said, "u tried ur best but with that boy going wild ur just not my girls type in my opinion." it really sucks dude.

[Fira-Astrali]

Dude, i feel ur pain man, when i was trying to show my gf's dad that i was the right one for her, my brother cums outa no where running round the house squirting silly string. I SAID, "JOSH STAY IN UR ROOM TIL I SAY U COME OUT!" but then my gf and her dad left leaving a note that said, "u tried ur best but with that boy going wild ur just not my girls type in my opinion." it really sucks dude.

0.0 That is ridiculous! What does your little brother's actions have ANYTHING to do with how you will treat someone's daughter?

[Guest FoXXX]

my brother cums outa no where

ok

[Redeemer]

Goddamn it FoXXX. XD

Sorry about the break ups guy. You should wait until I have one, I make massive posts about it and damn everyone happy to hell. XD

["User"]

Dude, i feel ur pain man, when i was trying to show my gf's dad that i was the right one for her, my brother cums outa no where running round the house squirting silly string. I SAID, "JOSH STAY IN UR ROOM TIL I SAY U COME OUT!" but then my gf and her dad left leaving a note that said, "u tried ur best but with that boy going wild ur just not my girls type in my opinion." it really sucks dude.

Really sorry to hear man, but the cum sentence just made me lol

[Thu'um]

so i wasn't the only person that cuaght it :lol: