Love Life Talk

[Redeemer]

I hope you didn't just dis me Steve, I look up to you man. 

How could that have POSSIBLY been a dis?

I hope to get married one day... But what I really want is kids. I can't wait to have children. No joke, don't knock it, I'm ready, yo! :D

[Guest Scorpion03]

I hope to get married one day... But what I really want is kids. I can't wait to have children. No joke, don't knock it, I'm ready, yo!

But children are horrible little creatures that drain ure wallets and make sure ure permanently poor, i can do that myself without children and its much more fun.

[Thu'um]

gimmi your money you big fibber. children are wonderful. that is the truth but love is not free of pain and people for get that to often

[Fluxy]

But children are horrible little creatures that drain ure wallets and make sure ure permanently poor, i can do that myself without children and its much more fun.

Although I personally don't like kids, I think that might be a bit much. They just annoy the crap out of me, but that will most likely (hopefully) change.

But eh, some people have that drive to have kids, all I can say is Good for you, and good luck with them!  :wink:

[EazyIN]

I'm still thinking if I even want kids in the future.  I got a whole list of positives and negatives for if I did have one and I have more negatives than positives. Doesn't mean I still can't get married.

[Fluxy]

Doesn't mean I still can't get married.

Nope! But, you most likely won't if you do what one of my friends do on a first date.

She says: "If I were to get married, I would LOVE to have kids!"

Guy says: "Uhhhh... Look over there!" *runs off*

Guys who don't want kids keep asking her out. It makes no sense.  :?

[EazyIN]

Yeah. I won't ask on a date. I'll wait till' I'm married to ask (or if she asks). I know too many people who had some 'bad things' before marriage with... 'The B's and the B's' (shortened, you figure out what B and B is )

[Guest Scorpion03]

Although I personally don't like kids, I think that might be a bit much. They just annoy the crap out of me, but that will most likely (hopefully) change.

But eh, some people have that drive to have kids, all I can say is Good for you, and good luck with them! 

It wasnt really meant as a nasty comment, just my feelings, i havea  few friends who have children, and they cannot afford to go out and nice new equipment and new cars and other of lifes little pros. As such (as i dont like children to start with) i would rather have nothing to do with them and spend the money on other things.

That said most men do not want children, it just sort of happens, and then their opinions change, unlikely beforehand.

[Fluxy]

It wasnt really meant as a nasty comment, just my feelings, i havea  few friends who have children, and they cannot afford to go out and nice new equipment and new cars and other of lifes little pros. As such (as i dont like children to start with) i would rather have nothing to do with them and spend the money on other things.

That said most men do not want children, it just sort of happens, and then their opinions change, unlikely beforehand.

No, I understand. I didn't mean it to be a nasty comeback (sorry if it was ) But I do understand. My sis is in that situation right now, I don't see how she can be so happy, but she is happy, so...  I guess people will know when the time comes.

[EazyIN]

Here's something: Don't have kids unless you have a crap-load of money, a big house, and your wife better not slap you for the events.

[Steve]

Here's something: Don't have kids unless you have a crap-load of money, a big house, and your wife better not slap you for the events.

For a kid yourself, you sure know nothing about what having kids means :P

[Fluxy]

For a kid yourself, you sure know nothing about what having kids means

It is one of those "Once your an adult, you will know" sorta things to me. Honestly, with the way I grew up, it turned me away from really wanting to be a parent. I am mature and everything, but I would not want to treat a kid the way I grew up. And I feel I might resort to some methods to the way I grew up, so for now, No ideas of wanting kids in my mind.  :|

[Sarita]

Having kids is not about being able to "afford" it. Having kids is a feeling, the feeling that knowing that you would do anything to protect this tiny little thing that hasn't done anything but slithered out of your lady parts. I think it's nice that you think about being able to afford things for yourself, but at the same time, could you BE any more selfish? Money is not all what kids are about.

[EazyIN]

With my redneck parents. I know  or half of it...Not so pleasant to me >_<

Having kids is not about being able to "afford" it. Having kids is a feeling, the feeling that knowing that you would do anything to protect this tiny little thing that hasn't done anything but slithered out of your lady parts. I think it's nice that you think about being able to afford things for yourself, but at the same time, could you BE any more selfish? Money is not all what kids are about.

Who me? If so, If I had a kid I've I wouldn't keep the money to myself. Parents have all bought us stuff when we were little squirts rite? I can do the same for my kids.

[Guest Scorpion03]

Having kids is not about being able to "afford" it. Having kids is a feeling, the feeling that knowing that you would do anything to protect this tiny little thing that hasn't done anything but slithered out of your lady parts. I think it's nice that you think about being able to afford things for yourself, but at the same time, could you BE any more selfish? Money is not all what kids are about.

I disagree with you to a certain point, firstly men tend not to see things the same way as wwomen, they will not want a child before its too late, and will not cherish the idea until well into the womans pregnancy (unless theyre quite successfull and already middle age, things tend to change then). As for my comment on money, it is not a selfish thing per-se... I simply meant that enjoying life has a lot of benefits too and you should not miss that bit out, so having a child too young is a bad move, secondly having the money to look after a child is extremely important, if you cannot afford a child, you are being very naive to have one. I know from my friend that childcare alone (he only uses childcare twice a week) costs over £400 a month for him. That is before you take into account clothing (which needs to be replaced regularly due to growth) feeding him/her, all the equipment the child will require. It is very expensive, so you have to be in a stable position to be able to afford that

[Fluxy]

I love that we are staying on topic (kinda) but we are all just sharing opinions. Everyone has different views on them. Some sweet, some sad, and some completely outrageous(not sure if we had one like this yet). I just really don't want arguments going on. Or at least this how I am seeing it turning out to be. : /

[Steve]

With my redneck parents. I know  or half of it...Not so pleasant to me >_<

Who me? If so, If I had a kid I've I wouldn't keep the money to myself. Parents have all bought us stuff when we were little squirts rite? I can do the same for my kids.

And that shows  you are no where near mature enough to have a kid, but you know why? Cause you are still young, and it should be the last of your worries, you have many years to go before that becomes your worry.

I disagree with you to a certain point, firstly men tend not to see things the same way as wwomen, they will not want a child before its too late, and will not cherish the idea until well into the womans pregnancy (unless theyre quite successfull and already middle age, things tend to change then). As for my comment on money, it is not a selfish thing per-se... I simply meant that enjoying life has a lot of benefits too and you should not miss that bit out, so having a child too young is a bad move, secondly having the money to look after a child is extremely important, if you cannot afford a child, you are being very naive to have one. I know from my friend that childcare alone (he only uses childcare twice a week) costs over £400 a month for him. That is before you take into account clothing (which needs to be replaced regularly due to growth) feeding him/her, all the equipment the child will require. It is very expensive, so you have to be in a stable position to be able to afford that

I'm not sure about that, I mean, I'm a man, I'm on my early twenties and having kids doesn't sound like a bad idea. I'm actually looking forward to be a dad one day. Do I want to have kids right now? surely no, because they require time and attention and well we only live once so, I'd rather wait a couple more years for that. However, I do agree on the money thing, partially, to have kids you need to have a stable economy, you don't need to be rich tho or be on the high side of society, though.

[Guest Scorpion03]

I'm not sure about that, I mean, I'm a man, I'm on my early twenties and having kids doesn't sound like a bad idea. I'm actually looking forward to be a dad one day. Do I want to have kids right now? surely no, because they require time and attention and well we only live once so, I'd rather wait a couple more years for that. However, I do agree on the money thing, partially, to have kids you need to have a stable economy, you don't need to be rich tho or be on the high side of society, though.

I agree with you there, im in my mid-twenties, and maybe in a few years i will change my opinion on all this. As for the being rich or in high society, that was just a misunderstanding, i didn't mean you had to be a millionaire before you could have kids, but something stable is a necessity. my friends provide that, as could I should i wish to at some point. I guess im still just trying to enjoy life at the minute.

[Steve]

I agree with you there, im in my mid-twenties, and maybe in a few years i will change my opinion on all this. As for the being rich or in high society, that was just a misunderstanding, i didn't mean you had to be a millionaire before you could have kids, but something stable is a necessity. my friends provide that, as could I should i wish to at some point. I guess im still just trying to enjoy life at the minute.

I have heard, however, that Europe is going through a "men are avoiding children " phase, maybe that's the reason  :P

[Sabre]

How could that have POSSIBLY been a dis?

I hope to get married one day... But what I really want is kids. I can't wait to have children. No joke, don't knock it, I'm ready, yo!

I want to have kids, but I dont want to raise them. Btw, if you or someone you know is in the market for some DNA, let me know.

As for the age to have kids, my old boss had a wife at 16 and kid on the way aged 18. I wouldn't be able to deal with that.

I have heard, however, that Europe is going through a "men are avoiding children " phase, maybe that's the reason 

Hopfully the male pill will be out soon.

[Redeemer]

But children are horrible little creatures that drain ure wallets and make sure ure permanently poor, i can do that myself without children and its much more fun.

Haha, I love kids, I've always been good with them. And yes, I can happily spend all my money on myself, but I think I just have that "mothering personality". I enjoy looking after people too, I guess. I dunno, my cousin had a baby last year and when I held her at Christmas, it was just... awesome. Like, awe-inspiring.

[Guest Scorpion03]

I have heard, however, that Europe is going through a "men are avoiding children " phase, maybe that's the reason 

haha maybe ure right.

Haha, I love kids, I've always been good with them. And yes, I can happily spend all my money on myself, but I think I just have that "mothering personality". I enjoy looking after people too, I guess. I dunno, my cousin had a baby last year and when I held her at Christmas, it was just... awesome. Like, awe-inspiring.

Theres a woman i work with just like you in that respect, i guess i can understand it to a degree, shes very paranoid more than anything else though atm as all her friends are married and are currently at the stage where they are having kids. SO she sees them a lot and she really wants her own child

[Redeemer]

Theres a woman i work with just like you in that respect, i guess i can understand it to a degree, shes very paranoid more than anything else though atm as all her friends are married and are currently at the stage where they are having kids. SO she sees them a lot and she really wants her own child

Yeah I can understand that. At one point it seemed everyone around me was having babies and I was like D:

I know I'm too young, and I can wait of course, but I can't help how I feel. :3

["User"]

Attitudes about having kids can change in a very short time. 3 years ago I had no interest in getting married or having kids.  Now it's the opposite. :P

[Fluxy]

Attitudes about having kids can change in a very short time. 3 years ago I had no interest in getting married or having kids.  Now it's the opposite.

I love how life always makes your ideas/morels/desires change in what seems a very short time. Life would be too boring without it.