Love Life Talk

[Sapphire]

For the first time?  I'd personally try and make it a bit elaborate and not just "come out" with it to her all that once, especially if you're not sure she feels the same way towards you.  If it's obvious to both of you that you love each other and you just haven't said yet then I see no reason why you couldn't just tell her flat out.

I'd say something like:  "You know (name) we've been seeing each other for (how long) and not only do I consider you a really good friend and likable individual but I also have had feelings for you that have been growing since we first went out on a date.  You've been really special to me and I want to thank you for that."

That's a pretty generic response but you can tailor it to suit your needs given how she is. Of course, you aren't actually using the word "love" in all of this but it's obviously implied here. If she replies by asking or implying directly if you love her or not of course be honest with her and say yes. And if she has the same feelings towards you then you'll have it made.   It's a really good feeling when both of you know 100% that you love each other.

Right. But it's been over a week and I feel it's waay too soon to say it. But I really wanna. And I haven't yet because I know if I do she might feel akward next time I see her.

["User"]

Right. But it's been over a week and I feel it's waay too soon to say it. But I really wanna. And I haven't yet because I know if I do she might feel akward next time I see her.

I'd wait a while then, there are more differences between love and infatuation (which I'm 95% sure is what you are experiencing right now) then most younger people think there is.  Often they interpret the two as the exact same thing. 

[Fira-Astrali]

Right. But it's been over a week and I feel it's waay too soon to say it. But I really wanna. And I haven't yet because I know if I do she might feel akward next time I see her.

A week really is too soon. I think that you should wait and see, like User said. I find that the feeling comes and its great, but you need to give it time to see if the feelings truely stays with you.

As for saying I love you, I always find that its best to wait for just the right time, and then be out with it. Like, if your talking and laughing about something and she says something like "we make such a good team" (or something equally as corney ) and you just pop out and say "and that's why I love you."  i think it's best if you can wait for the perfect moment And don't make it too wordy, or the feeling is lost. Short, sweet, to the point :)

[Thu'um]

i think i might just ask out the girl that was calling me da names.  well ever since the first day of school we have been geting along fine.

[Kid_Cortet]

-thinks about it for a moment-

guess there isnt much to hold on to anymore, i guess I can just hold onto my close friends :)

[Thu'um]

-thinks about it for a moment-

guess there isnt much to hold on to anymore, i guess I can just hold onto my close friends

what? :?

[Kid_Cortet]

what?

was talking about how i should stick with my close friends and not try to hold onto my emotions for some individuals

[Thu'um]

k, lets take a vote say one in the next even posts and i will ask out the chick i got da hots for. 2 and i will ask out da chick i got da hots for which is it ?

[Kid_Cortet]

k, lets take a vote say one in the next even posts and i will ask out the chick i got da hots for. 2 and i will ask out da chick i got da hots for which is it ?

ask her...you have a 50/50 shot of a yes, unless she likes you too :P

[Tiberius]

Well, Ive never actually HAD a girlfriend. Theres a good friend of mine that I like though. Cute, sweet personality, and plays the flute in our marching band as well as being our field commander. But I dont think Im at the point where if I ask her out shed say yes. I need more time to know her. Sometimes I just feel like its hopeless because Im a FREAKING NERD!!!

[Fira-Astrali]

Well, Ive never actually HAD a girlfriend. Theres a good friend of mine that I like though. Cute, sweet personality, and plays the flute in our marching band as well as being our field commander. But I dont think Im at the point where if I ask her out shed say yes. I need more time to know her. Sometimes I just feel like its hopeless because Im a FREAKING NERD!!!

Aww, don't let nerdliness hold ya' back. I am probably one of the geekiest little runts in my school, and I found someone Of course, he is also a huge nerd, so yea :P

[Sapphire]

Me and My Girlfriend:

["User"]

Me and My Girlfriend:

So you two made it official then?  Btw, nice paw mark on her cheek. :)

[Kid_Cortet]

Well, Ive never actually HAD a girlfriend. Theres a good friend of mine that I like though. Cute, sweet personality, and plays the flute in our marching band as well as being our field commander. But I dont think Im at the point where if I ask her out shed say yes. I need more time to know her. Sometimes I just feel like its hopeless because Im a FREAKING NERD!!!

Aww, don't let nerdliness hold ya' back. I am probably one of the geekiest little runts in my school, and I found someone Of course, he is also a huge nerd, so yea

i agree with Fira, not on her being a nerd....but on that if you set your heart to it and ask, even if she says no now.....does not mean that it wont be in her mind for later

[Guest Julius Quasar]

....but on that if you set your heart to it and ask, even if she says no now.....does not mean that it wont be in her mind for later

True.  and if she says no, it's not the end of the world.  Heck, I've had to ask [exaggeration] 1,000,000,000[/exaggeration] girls, all who said "no", before I came to one who said "yes".  :P

[Kid_Cortet]

True.  and if she says no, it's not the end of the world.  Heck, I've had to ask [exaggeration] 1,000,000,000[/exaggeration] girls, all who said "no", before I came to one who said "yes". 

[non-needed drama] OMG a million?!?!?!?! [/non-needed drama]

it is always fun to find that one to say yes....but will she/he (that is for anyone actually) say yes for a long time.....or as a fling?

[Sabre]

Aww, don't let nerdliness hold ya' back. I am probably one of the geekiest little runts in my school, and I found someone Of course, he is also a huge nerd, so yea

I can contribute! Awesome.

I have to say you are wrong. Everyone wants a nerd woman. Nerds for obvious reasons, and idiots want them too to leach off their talent or play off their insecurity.

The few women who claim they like or don't mind nerds are lying.

[Milkyway64]

I can contribute! Awesome.

I have to say you are wrong. Everyone wants a nerd woman. Nerds for obvious reasons, and idiots want them too to leach off their talent or play off their insecurity.

The few women who claim they like or don't mind nerds are lying.

Because LOL OPINIONS, right?

[Fluxy]

The few women who claim they like or don't mind nerds are lying.

Opinion. :P

[Sabre]

Opinion.

Or experience.

Your point?

["User"]

I can contribute! Awesome.

I have to say you are wrong. Everyone wants a nerd woman. Nerds for obvious reasons, and idiots want them too to leach off their talent or play off their insecurity.

The few women who claim they like or don't mind nerds are lying.

Nice sarcasm there, you made me chuckle.

Or experience.

Your point?

Do you have any love related experience with other girls Sabre? Like a past girlfriend? Because if you don't then, no offense, but I wouldn't completely trust your judgment when it comes to matters like this.

[Milkyway64]

Do you have any love related experience with other girls Sabre? Like a past girlfriend? Because if you don't then, no offense, but I wouldn't completely trust your judgment when it comes to matters like this.

He doesn't. He repeatedly has stated he cannot love, so he knows jack shit.

I'm noticing a trend in how Sabre works.

[Tiberius]

Well here's the thing I have asked her out. She said she's not only busy (with a crapload of school and band stuff which is confirmed) but she thinks that we should be friends just for now. So this means wait about 6 months then try again. Here's to hoping that works.

[Kid_Cortet]

Well here's the thing I have asked her out. She said she's not only busy (with a crapload of school and band stuff which is confirmed) but she thinks that we should be friends just for now. So this means wait about 6 months then try again. Here's to hoping that works.

good luck dude :D

[Sabre]

Do you have any love related experience with other girls Sabre? Like a past girlfriend? Because if you don't then, no offense, but I wouldn't completely trust your judgment when it comes to matters like this.

Nice. Round of applause for that low blow there. What next? "Your fat, so your opinion doesn't matter!"?

To answer your question no. I don't have a girlfriend, but I have been burned often enough, and seen planty of women abuse themselves to know something. Hence my "I can contribute!" remark from before because I can give some meaningful insight for a change.

Since you care about qualifications so much, my past is almost exclusivly nerd based. Computers, Board Games, Warhammer, Comics. As a result, I have seen many many people, myself included, get ignored by a woman who claims to only like nice guys or nerd, or whatever, only to run into the arms of a guy who beats them up again and again.

They claim many things, heres 2 of the main ones. 1, they like nice guys, but they hate nerdX because he's too nice, so it must be an act to get into her knickers. 2, they want a guy isn't afraid to show feelings before going with some steriotype 'hard case' because "He's manly".

Therefor, Firas claim that nerdiness isn't a problem is inconsistent with my experience. I can't offer a sollution, but I know that claim is total bollocks. I have never, not once, seen a nerd guy get a girlfriend without it being before entering geekdom. The few that did were just being used for some other end. eg. 'dating' a computer technitian long enough so he can set up all her computer, internet, electronics ect. and then just happen to break up afterwards.