ballisticwaffles Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 No matter how nice3 i am, no matter how hard i try, nobody seems to like me, at all. any advice anyone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dragzilla66 Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 Don't you love it when you find out about relationships you were never aware of (bc they never existed) I just found out yesterday that last year i had a girlfriend. I was quite surprised and wanted to know who this girl was XDSometimes.. I wish I knew more about this other girl 2 years ago who call me her bf non-stop lolz. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
"User" Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Myself and Nataliya ended our relationship an hour ago or so. We didn't have a lot of similar interests and that spark just never materialized. She was more of an introvert and I was the opposite. We remain good friends in the meantime. Right now I'm in the grieving phase. ;( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redeemer Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Myself and Nataliya ended our relationship an hour ago or so. We didn't have a lot of similar interests and that spark just never materialized. She was more of an introvert and I was the opposite. We remain good friends in the meantime. Right now I'm in the grieving phase. ;(Oh noooo! Hugs, User, perhaps it was not meant to be. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Myself and Nataliya ended our relationship an hour ago or so. We didn't have a lot of similar interests and that spark just never materialized. She was more of an introvert and I was the opposite. We remain good friends in the meantime. Right now I'm in the grieving phase. ;(For some reason I read and thought "One notch down, time for another".If it was mutual lack of interest, why are you all depressed about it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fira-Astrali Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 For some reason I read and thought "One notch down, time for another".k, that was pretty crueleven if you both agree things didnt work out, its heart-wrenching to have to walk away from something that looked promising, especially if you were both happy in the beginning Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arashikage Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 For some reason I read and thought "One notch down, time for another".Yeah... A little harsh...But hey, User, it'll pass, at least you tried right? I mean, not to bring up my issues or anything, but every time I try I fail, you got something going for you here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FoxMcCloud Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 College is a tough place, I have had a few crushes, but none of them ever pan out, always to much of a chicken ya know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
"User" Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Yeah... A little harsh...But hey, User, it'll pass, at least you tried right? I mean, not to bring up my issues or anything, but every time I try I fail, you got something going for you hereMy attitude on relationships has matured over the last couple of years into something more reminiscent of the majority of them were like a long time ago. As a result I no longer date for the sake of dating but am more and more trying to find "the one" that I will eventually marry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 No matter how nice3 i am, no matter how hard i try, nobody seems to like me, at all. any advice anyone?Wish I did, but apparently, I seem to be unable to hold a girl's interest in conversation. It's weird, this one guy I know just casually speaks to any random girl and suddenly they want his number or something. I try cracking a few jokes (when appropriate) and they barely respond. Meanwhile, the other guy can sound like an utter moron at times. IDK what's wrong with me.My attitude on relationships has matured over the last couple of years into something more reminiscent of the majority of them were like a long time ago. As a result I no longer date for the sake of dating but am more and more trying to find "the one" that I will eventually marry.Yeah, that's how I think too. I believe that starting relationships before your mid-late 20's is alright. If anything, you arent completely focused on a career or w/e...and you have more time to get to know the person you are going out with. Stronger bonds = stronger trust = Overall better relationship and higher chance of lifetime commitment...At least it should work that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Wish I did, but apparently, I seem to be unable to hold a girl's interest in conversation. It's weird, this one guy I know just casually speaks to any random girl and suddenly they want his number or something. I try cracking a few jokes (when appropriate) and they barely respond. Meanwhile, the other guy can sound like an utter moron at times. IDK what's wrong with me.Yeah, that's how I think too. I believe that starting relationships before your mid-late 20's is alright. If anything, you arent completely focused on a career or w/e...and you have more time to get to know the person you are going out with. Stronger bonds = stronger trust = Overall better relationship and higher chance of lifetime commitment...At least it should work that way.It's a body language/looks/social cues thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arashikage Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 No matter how nice3 i am, no matter how hard i try, nobody seems to like me, at all. any advice anyone?Welcome to my world. Here's what you have to do, this is advice straight from my dad, you have to ask if they have a boyfriend, or if they want to go out with you, if they say they have a boyfriend, or they say that they don't want to go out with you, say "Okay" and walk away, it drives them nuts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fire Yoshi Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Welcome to my world. Here's what you have to do, this is advice straight from my dad, you have to ask if they have a boyfriend, or if they want to go out with you, if they say they have a boyfriend, or they say that they don't want to go out with you, say "Okay" and walk away, it drives them nuts.I heard that one before MANY times. I tried it when I was in high school, it didn't seem to work. It only made the situation worse, because I could remember her saying to her friends "Wow, what a weirdo." :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 I heard that one before MANY times. I tried it when I was in high school, it didn't seem to work. It only made the situation worse, because I could remember her saying to her friends "Wow, what a weirdo." Yep. That's bad advice. Also, as with the gay problem I have, women love it when they can't have a guy, but when they know he's single and available, no interest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arashikage Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Yep. That's bad advice. Also, as with the gay problem I have, women love it when they can't have a guy, but when they know he's single and available, no interest.Gee, why don't you go try it? That's how my dad got a date with my mom, listen to yourself, Sabre, so quick to put down others advice when I'm just trying to help out a friend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarita Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Welcome to my world. Here's what you have to do, this is advice straight from my dad, you have to ask if they have a boyfriend, or if they want to go out with you, if they say they have a boyfriend, or they say that they don't want to go out with you, say "Okay" and walk away, it drives them nuts....no... Not really. Not unless the girl you're trying to get is really shallow. (Not to say that your mom is or anything ) Usually they just think, "cool guy, he's actually listening to what I said instead of being insistent." It might work in getting you a date after she breaks up with her current boy, but it doesn't "drive us nuts." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arashikage Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Least you were nicer about it... Anyway, sometimes girls, like my mom, lie about having a boyfriend if they don't want to go out with someone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarita Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 You offended my lady parts, that was as mean as I could get!And if they don't want to go out with someone, why push it? Like I said, if she's interested in you later, she'll let you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arashikage Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Well yeah, that is really what the point there was, if she's the right person for you, she'll "come back" I dare say Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoctorAllosaurus Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 The only thing that has ever worked for me was to just be somebody that people want to hang with. If you have good social skills and are generally fun to be around, then you have a pretty decent chance of getting into a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arashikage Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Rules me out... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Me too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Apparently me three....but not because of being "antisocial"It's a body language/looks/social cues thing.^^^That's why. What? I need a dreamy body so girls will talk to me is what you are saying? So then, who's being shallow at that point? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
"User" Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Welcome to my world. Here's what you have to do, this is advice straight from my dad, you have to ask if they have a boyfriend, or if they want to go out with you, if they say they have a boyfriend, or they say that they don't want to go out with you, say "Okay" and walk away, it drives them nuts.This might have worked with your dad but I can safely assure you the odds of that working on a regular basis are practically nil.Wish I did, but apparently, I seem to be unable to hold a girl's interest in conversation. It's weird, this one guy I know just casually speaks to any random girl and suddenly they want his number or something.I know a couple of guys like that. I just consider them blessed with the looks and humourous personality they have. The only thing that has ever worked for me was to just be somebody that people want to hang with. If you have good social skills and are generally fun to be around, then you have a pretty decent chance of getting into a relationship.Agreed. Looks aren't the primary factor in getting a GF. It's personality, social skills, and other factors. That being said, the posters in this thread who have made it known or implied on more than one occasion that they don't have a shot at getting a mate or into a relationship should not be so down on themselves. The effort will eventually pay off.^^^That's why. What? I need a dreamy body so girls will talk to me is what you are saying? The last couple of girls who've had an interest in me (although they weren't GF's of mine) HATED muscles and other traditional "dreamy" stuff on guys. One of them told me she liked my skinny demeanor and my belly Goes to show you though, that girls have a wide variety of tastes on what they like in the physical demeanor of a guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 I know a couple of guys like that. I just consider them blessed with the looks and humourous personality they have. The last couple of girls who've had an interest in me (although they weren't GF's of mine) HATED muscles and other traditional "dreamy" stuff on guys. One of them told me she liked my skinny demeanor and my belly Goes to show you though, that girls have a wide variety of tastes on what they like in the physical demeanor of a guy.Yeah, apparently the girls you meet have a wide variety anyways. I swear, I'm not one to judge, but based on the appearance of certain girls, I can sort of tell what they might be like. More or less though, I could just take a look at who they hang out with, since that might be a better implication. It wouldn't be fair to believe someone is a self-absorbed w/e just because they look way too good.And really, it just freaks me out how....oh...lets say if I were to win lotto one day, and suddenly I find myself followed by "love interests". The problem is that some people are just so materialistic and superficial...I find myself sometimes hesitating to start a conversation just because.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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