Sabre Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Yeah, apparently the girls you meet have a wide variety anyways. I swear, I'm not one to judge, but based on the appearance of certain girls, I can sort of tell what they might be like. More or less though, I could just take a look at who they hang out with, since that might be a better implication. It wouldn't be fair to believe someone is a self-absorbed w/e just because they look way too good.And really, it just freaks me out how....oh...lets say if I were to win lotto one day, and suddenly I find myself followed by "love interests". The problem is that some people are just so materialistic and superficial...I find myself sometimes hesitating to start a conversation just because....Yep. That or something happens to make you 'popular'. eg, The way being weak and broody would have you labeled as an arse, but now women throw themselves at those types because "They are deep and sensitive". Basic, emo became popular.I used to think all love was a side effect of lust. That romance was just a brain trick of wanting to get laid and thus nice guys were trapped in a catch 22 situation. I still believe that is somewhat true, but perhaps physical attraction plays a minor role? It would take a while and be difficult to explain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Well, there's a whole bunch of types of "sensitive". Technically, both you and me could be labeled as "emo" just because of our negative outlooks on a lot of things. Other sensitive people could just be bothered by something constantly, and not necessarily to the point of crying about it....Either way, I think that even if "emotional" guys are the in thing now, then theoretically guys similar to us should be finding it easier to speak to girls because of the "fact" that they WANT to see that side.I've never seen catch 22, so i didnt get the entire idea of what you were trying to get at. But I think you were saying how being physically attractive is a blessing and a curse at the same time. ( Hence, the reason I mentioned the hypothetical girl who naturally looks way too beautiful ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Catch 22 is used to decribe an un-escapable situation. In the book and film, it's used in the context of "You have to mad to want to fly, but if you claim to want leave due to mental issues, you must be sane enough to fly."Wikipedia describes it as"a logical paradox arising from a situation in which an individual needs something that can only be acquired by not being in that very situation; therefore, the acquisition of this thing becomes logically impossible. "Another example"One cannot get a job in a high-profile occupation without prior experience, but one cannot get experience without getting a job in a high-profile area."It's why I hate this "Be yourself" crap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Wait, what does that all have to do about being less attractive than other guys and as a result, it becomes difficult to approach girls? That, and the whole thing you said before about trickery and whatnot... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Wait. I've lost track, what part particularly are you asking about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Well, you used the phrase "catch 22" to describe the type of situation guys who "aren't necessarily as attractive as other guys" are always finding themselves in. Then I asked how that made any sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Ah. Ok. Being nice is treated with suspision, as apparently you are hiding something, but being anything else get's you labeled something negative. eg. If we are not the best looking guys in the room, we are considered ugly. If we decided to do something about out looks, we would be considered ponces or posers. Another example. If they claim to only like 'real' and 'tough' men, any display of stregth or bravery get's labeled as barbaric or incensitive, but being sensitive get's you labeled as an unmannly ponce, and round and round it goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 So essentially, you are either gifted or you're not. And in that case, your anger is not directed towards someone else who you may be competing with for someone's heart. It is in fact towards the moron who contradicts themself in terms of what they believe they really want in a relationship, only to go back on there own words, and turn into every other close-minded fool who just makes everything so foggy and confusing for everyone else for their own enjoyment/exaggeration Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Milkyway64 Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Ah. Ok. Being nice is treated with suspision, as apparently you are hiding something, but being anything else get's you labeled something negative. eg. If we are not the best looking guys in the room, we are considered ugly. If we decided to do something about out looks, we would be considered ponces or posers. Another example. If they claim to only like 'real' and 'tough' men, any display of stregth or bravery get's labeled as barbaric or incensitive, but being sensitive get's you labeled as an unmannly ponce, and round and round it goes.Please shut -up- about your negative "love is bullshit" crap that your oh so wise and jaded mind makes up on the spot because you haven't got a girlfriend yet.Everything you're saying, and have said for as long as I've known you, is statistically untrue and disproven by free will and other people's experience again and again and you KNOW it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 So essentially, you are either gifted or you're not. And in that case, your anger is not directed towards someone else who you may be competing with for someone's heart. It is in fact towards the moron who contradicts themself in terms of what they believe they really want in a relationship, only to go back on there own words, and turn into every other close-minded fool who just makes everything so foggy and confusing for everyone else for their own enjoyment/exaggerationPretty much, except for the last bit. Oh, and it's not a case of being gifted or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 Are you saying the conclusion I've drawn is altogether wrong? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fox1235 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Girl I like set her facebook status as single. Also that cheerleader that asked me to be her square dancing partner has been talking to me more often. I guess ill wait before I choose which would be good for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thu'um Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Wait, square dancing? i live in georgia, and we don't do that. course' i do live in atlanta. But i am glad for you and the face book thing. Nothing for me sofar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fox1235 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Wait, square dancing? i live in georgia, and we don't do that. course' i do live in atlanta. But i am glad for you and the face book thing. Nothing for me sofar. Yep we have square dancing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fira-Astrali Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 You know Sabre, for all the people that have told you your wrong, I've been thinking about what you said about girls saying they want really good men, but ending up with assholes. I actually have an example where that is true, well almost true, and it happened to me, if you want to hear it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arashikage Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 What happened, Fira? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabre Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 You know Sabre, for all the people that have told you your wrong, I've been thinking about what you said about girls saying they want really good men, but ending up with assholes. I actually have an example where that is true, well almost true, and it happened to me, if you want to hear it. What you saying about asper? If you want to, then go for it. If nothing else it will be interesting to see it from the other side. Still, if you don't want to, don't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thu'um Posted February 5, 2011 Share Posted February 5, 2011 there is this cute girl named puja. But she is in the seventh grade. we talk somtimes. But i don't know yet Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 So that means you are older Ajcx? Could be a girl who thinks that hanging out with an older guy will make her popular. Then again, I wouldn't be so quick to pass judgement. You say she talks to you sometimes? I don't know what kind of advice to give you. As for myself, its even more confusing than ever. First off, there's this girl that is clearly into me...a LOT. I've been a little slow to say something as simple as hanging out sometime to her. I'm not so quick to test the waters. I'm a skeptic in case you couldn't tell by now. Now for the second part. Ex is getting involved again. She dosen't know this other girl exists. Basically, she claims she wants to be friends with me, and yet she suddenly wants me to visit her house, and hang out with her a lot. She went from one extreme to the other. She's invited me to her swimming pool (later in the year) Everything she says comes packaged with comments that are clearly an attempt at being cute. So basically, my current situation, I can't figure out my ex, and at the same time I find myself wanting to say "hey, let's hang out" with the other girl, but I don't want to start something and then have to break it down because my ex may turn out to actually had a wake up call or something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thu'um Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 dang i hate that sceinerio. tough... think it out before you choose though. Any way, there is this girl named lucy, i and her have been flirting for a while now but things are starting to get serious. just informing you guys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
"User" Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 dang i hate that sceinerio. tough... think it out before you choose though. Any way, there is this girl named lucy, i and her have been flirting for a while now but things are starting to get serious. just informing you guys Good to hear. Congrats. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thu'um Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 Good to hear. Congrats. thanks, how it bin for you, havn't heard about your life in a little while Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarFoxfan-FUR_ever Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 Wait Ajcx, weren't you just talking about a different girl named "puja"? How did lucy suddenly come about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
"User" Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 thanks, how it bin for you, havn't heard about your life in a little while Well, right now I'm not actively looking for a romantic relationship right now. Just focusing on other things atm. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fira-Astrali Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 What you saying about asper? If you want to, then go for it. If nothing else it will be interesting to see it from the other side. Still, if you don't want to, don't. Lol wait, that definately wasn't supposed to sound the way it did ^^; I got my brains out of my butt and ended up with a good guy in the end I was talking about this one person that I liked for a time. When I first met him, I thought he was smart and polite, and he played guitar, which i thought was cool bc i'm a fairly musical person. The more I got to know him tho, the stupider and more immature I realized he was. He turned out to be literally the complete opposite of the type of person that I thought he was. Also, as you've heard, my frist boyfriend wasn't really a prize either. And if you consider the fact that people all the time ignore really really bad traits in a partner because they like them, I've come to the conclusion that what you say happens, probably happens way more than I've given you credit for, considering the fact that I've done it myself. Not sure if I wanted to admit this and give you more fuel, but there it is That is also not to say that just bc a girl ends up with an asshole, she won't eventually realize he is an asshole. That's sort of what dating is all about, being with someone you like until your either realize he is a massive jerk and leave him, or until you decide that whatever it is about him that you don't agree with isn't a big enough of a problem to be a deal-breaker. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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