Love Life Talk

[LoneWolf]

Stuff's beginning to look up for my girl. They've almost finished moving out (they meaning her and her mom, her dad hasn't been helping at all), and for once it seems like stuff might've stabilized for a bit. She's been pulling long nights moving though, since they're going to get locked out again soon. Still, she seems happy which is great to see. Homecoming is also this week, which seems to have taken her mind off of things a bit. She's stressed out and tired from moving, but otherwise she seems happy. I'm feeling a lot better for it too, and we're both excited as we can possibly be for homecoming. I'm happy :D

[Faisul]

Faisul once woke me up to semi-sleep-talk about a mysterious "jellyfish party" before instantly falling back asleep

Even "doing crazy shit while you sleep" manages to be endearing, though!

It was traumatizing, I tells ya. The bastards were wearing top hats and monocles, and quivering while cutting cake and sipping from champagne flutes. I have never truly known madness since that dream.

Thankfully I had you to comfort me, or else I think I'd have jumped off a building.

[Drasiana]

I will always protect you from the jellyfish. They may never lay a tentacle on you! vwv

[Simon]

nvm

[Vrance Movado]

Fiddled around on the piano tonight:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSED7QN2hh4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfffZdISgf4

Nothing much, really.

What does that have to do with the thread?

As far as it goes in my love life, I've had it rather tough. Raise your hand if you ever been friendzoned. Sucks doesnt it?

Its all fun, then emotions change, then when theres no room to move ahead, you get friendzoned.

[Simon]

Gah, stupid me. I assumed this was "Love, Life, [and] Talk" general everything chat

Well, this is embarrassing :\

[The Shaper]

Gah, stupid me. I assumed this was "Love, Life, [and] Talk" general everything chat

Well, this is embarrassing :

Do it again I wasn't looking.

I guess I could post something relevant. I'm not together with Sassy anymore. Not romantically at least, at the moment we are simply really close friends, and it'll probably stay that way until we go our separate ways.

[Zzz]

Gah, stupid me. I assumed this was "Love, Life, [and] Talk" general everything chat

Well, this is embarrassing :

Hey man, no worries, shit happens XD

If you want to open a new topic about your cool piano stuff then go for it! You can post your videos there and I can remove them from here :)

[Dr. Orange]

Hell I need help, and I don't know where to turn. I'm on the last inch of rope here.

I got this girl at my school here who likes me and she just came out in the open with it. While at the mean time another girl here also came out and said she liked me. Now this has been a week and I feel like I'm leading them on when I don't want to.

I don't like to be all "why me?!" And be Mr. Problems, but I need some aid on this one.

[LoneWolf]

Well, which one suits you better? In all honesty it's what is going to make you happier. Just be sure that this is a person that you can live with, and are compatible with. Make sure you share common interests and are compatible on touchier subjects such as religion. Otherwise just do what your heart tells you to. If it doesn't work out, then maybe try the other.

Whatever you do, it should make you happier for it. If you're not happy, it's not worth it.

[Scourge]

Alright so...

A while back alot of you remember me and Toxxic were a thing... I'd like to state that that is no longer the case (thank fuck I'm rid of that parasitic wasp), and am now fully engrossed in a seemingly much healthier relationship with a girl who's actually here locally, as opposed to a couple hundred miles away.

She and I have known eachother for some time, but never really got around to getting to know eachother. That changed about a month and a half ago, and since then, we've been talking for a bit, until 3 weeks ago I asked her out in a jarringly unconventional way, that apparently was adorable (stop dirty thoughts, stop them right now)

So, tonight, I was hosting a movie night with her, another couple, and an old friend of mine. For the most part the entire time was spent us just cuddling with eachother, and quoting our respecive favourite movies (mine being Monty Python, hers being Harry Potter).

However everything must come to an end eventually... Dosent mean it has to be a bad end.

So as one of my friends was helping one of the others into the truck of my afformentioned Girlfriend (said friend recently had knee surgery) , She and I just gazed up into the moonglow-lit sky just talking briefly, when I went into kiss her on the forehead.

To be honest, I woulda been satisfied with that, but she grabbed onto my arm as I was beginning to pull away and went in for a full kiss on the lips.

So... I may tout my past experiences with females, but none of them were ever given the chance to get even that far so... first kiss tonight, and fucking hell I am on cloud nine~<3

[LoneWolf]

First of all, congrats to Scourge. You done good, bro.

 

Secondly, did some Christmas shopping with my girl today and went back to my place for dinner and just to hang out. Turns out she's better than me at NES. I like this. Very much. And we played StarFox Assault as well. Huzzah.

[Snys93]

Love life is not existent for me at the moment, I'm a workaholic so I either don't have time for a relationship and no girl cares for me. I don't really know.

[Cavemonkynick]

It is official, the Monky is dating again. It's not the girl I posted about last time though, that didn't work out just because reasons. Anyways this is a girl I met a little over a year ago when doing a play in college. In the play we were together although the relationship didn't see much stage time. Our characters fell in love and then mine moved away for a job and they never saw each other again. But my character did run into his daughter, which he didn't know about, 20 years later at a gas station... because the plot said so.

Anyways, we were friends and all, and apparently she was crushing on me but I didn't pick up on it because she was always quiet and I'm an idiot. Plus I was still dating Baily back then so I wasn't really looking for stuff like that. Fast forward to a few months ago. She started talking to me out of the blue on face book when she wasn't busy at school. One thing led to another and the next thing you know its a Saturday night and we're making out in my car in my yard.

Now I'll admit, there's a part of me that's still pretty jacked up about the way Bailey left me. Yeah we've talked since then, and yeah I'm determined to move on and I am moving on, but I'm starting to think I may never get that part of me back. Bailey and I were close for a long time. We were each other first love, first kiss, first everything. Stuff like that doesn't just go away, and I'm not really sure I want it to because despite everything those memories will always be important to me.

There I go rambling again, I gotta stop doing that.

[Vrance Movado]

You know, the hardest the hardest thing is being friendzoned. Right in the feels.

You know, the hardest the hardest thing is being friendzoned. Right in the feels.

[Drasiana]

He got friendzoned so hard he had to say it twice.

 

Faisul sent me Norwegian chocolate for Christmas. It's delicious. LIKE HIM >:3

[mjakob42]

He got friendzoned so hard he had to say it twice.

 

Faisul sent me Norwegian chocolate for Christmas. It's delicious. LIKE HIM >:3

You should send a crumb or two of that chocolate this here way. My Nordic blood needs nourishment from the motherland! 

 

Anywho, time for the update. M'kay, so things were going amazingly with that ex-coworker I raved about - her name is Lynsey, so I'll just refer to her as the latter. Like, I actually feel like I'm going to get to be a proud boyfriend for the first time in my almost 20 years of living. Come around late October, she invited me to her apartment to celebrate her birthday with her and a few other cool cats from Outback. Of course, I jumped at the chance to hang with her. Hell, I even made cupcakes and wrote a pretty sweet and profound card. So, we're chilling and whatnot, and next thing we know Lynsey gets super hammer drunk. After a while when most everybody's left with the exception of, like, one or two more people. Lyns gets up to go to bed; I pick her up and take her to her bed (I wasn't looking for sex, I promise; just trying to be a decent human being). 

 

Anyway, Lynsey's roomate, one of the partygoers (Caleb, the one who supplied the alcohol), and myself are in the living room bullshitting when Lyns comes out of her room to go get her smokes out of her car - she insists on going alone. About 10 minutes later, her roommate makes Caleb go check on her since he supplied the alcohol and got her drunk. I know I should have been the one to check on her, but I fucked up. Caleb comes back up several minutes later to tell us she drove off to go get smokes...while heavily intoxicated, let me remind you.

 

Ever since, Lynsey stopped responding to my texts and calls - I honestly thought she was dead for a little, but I drove by her apartment to see her car still intact. I'd stop in at Outback to visit, she'd say "hi, honey" in her happy-go-lucky fashion to me, then she'd go do her own thing. She didn't seem mad at me, so the advice and speculations of others would lead me to believe that perhaps she's embarassed and ashamed to get so drunk in front of me. Come early November, another ex-coworker from OB would stop in at my work. Discussion would lead him to reveal that she's been dating one of the bartenders for over a month. I remind you that she said not a single word to me about this. Of course, I was heartbroken and spent the rest of the night in tears. Don't get me wrong, I want her to be happy and she has the right to be with whoever she wants to be with, but couldn't she have said something to me? I kind of gave her a pretty big-time concert ticket AND made her cupcakes for her birthday.

 

I've not talked to her ever since, but I think I know where she's coming from: "Here's this guy who really likes me, he's a sweet guy and all, but I have a boyfriend, and I don't know how to tell him, so I'll just close the lid and pretend it'll go away." If I'm right (and I'm pretty sure I am, given that she's one of the sweetest people I've ever met), then I totally understand. Anyway, where I'm going with this is this; I found out all this in November; it's February, and I still can't get my mind off of her. I'd still love to be friends with her, but she's made that a really awkward friendship. It's been getting me really down. Any advice on moving on? Should I confront her about this, maybe? I know I should just get the hell over her, but that's proven to be an extremely difficult task. Sorry to regurgitate so much bullshit, but friendly advice is always appreciated.

[Drasiana]

but couldn't she have said something to me? I kind of gave her a pretty big-time concert ticket AND made her cupcakes for her birthday.

 

...which could have meant you were just being a good friend? It's not like she demanded you spend a lot of money on her. She isn't obligated to clear her dating someone with you when it sounds like she probably didn't even know you were interested to begin with, or, y'know, she didn't center her dating life around your needs. Actually I don't get any impression whatsoever from this that she thought of you as anything other than a co-worker to begin with.

 

 

Should I confront her about this, maybe?

 

She didn't do anything wrong, so fuck no. Leave her alone. If she wants to talk to you she will but pushing yourself on her will probably just make her uncomfortable. Getting the hell over her might be hard, but your feelings are your problem, not her's, and making them her's when it looks like she wants nothing to do with them is creepy and wildly inconsiderate.

[Jabariboykin]

Just an update on me and Chaos Leader.

 

I'm hoping to visit him sometime early next year. I'm so excited for it! His family seems so wonderful and nice, they've been nothing but kind to me whenever we've had the chance to talk. I love chaos very much and hope to make this the first of many trips to see him.

[myu]

I've not talked to her ever since, but I think I know where she's coming from: "Here's this guy who really likes me, he's a sweet guy and all, but I have a boyfriend, and I don't know how to tell him, so I'll just close the lid and pretend it'll go away." If I'm right (and I'm pretty sure I am, given that she's one of the sweetest people I've ever met), then I totally understand. Anyway, where I'm going with this is this; I found out all this in November; it's February, and I still can't get my mind off of her. I'd still love to be friends with her, but she's made that a really awkward friendship. It's been getting me really down. Any advice on moving on? Should I confront her about this, maybe? I know I should just get the hell over her, but that's proven to be an extremely difficult task. Sorry to regurgitate so much bullshit, but friendly advice is always appreciated.

 

No offense or anything, but it sounds like you might be the one making it awkward. She hasn't done anything.

 

From what I gather, you haven't talked to her about your feelings at all, so assuming she knew just because you made her cupcakes and invited her to a concert is sort of silly, besides her personal life is none of your business and she wasn't obligated to tell you anything. All of what you're saying is speculation, unless I missed something, and you're putting a lot of blame on her for no reason.

 

If you do want to be friends with her still, I'd suggest talking to her about this. It might help give you some closure and get you on the right track to getting over her, just... idk try not to come off too strong.

[Thu'um]

No offense or anything, but it sounds like you might be the one making it awkward. She hasn't done anything.

 

From what I gather, you haven't talked to her about your feelings at all, so assuming she knew just because you made her cupcakes and invited her to a concert is sort of silly, besides her personal life is none of your business and she wasn't obligated to tell you anything. All of what you're saying is speculation, unless I missed something, and you're putting a lot of blame on her for no reason.

 

If you do want to be friends with her still, I'd suggest talking to her about this. It might help give you some closure and get you on the right track to getting over her, just... idk try not to come off too strong.

It would also help to give advice at least a few weeks after he needs it :3 

 

Future reference though, right?

[myu]

Oh oops. I always forget to look at the dates of things.

 

Although, who knows, maybe he'll still find it useful.

[chaos_Leader]

Just an update on me and Chaos Leader.

 

I'm hoping to visit him sometime early next year. I'm so excited for it! His family seems so wonderful and nice, they've been nothing but kind to me whenever we've had the chance to talk. I love chaos very much and hope to make this the first of many trips to see him.

 

Yup. We're still going strong! Even after nearly a year of us being strictly long-distance, we've only grown closer over that time. (anniversary coming up!)

 

I can't wait to have Jabari over when she comes. I'll have to plan something awesome. See the sights of Oregon, maybe a little around San Francisco. We'll see

[Redeemer]

Instead of bumping my topic, I figured posting here would be better. R3d and I have been together almost 2 years now, in fact on Sept 26th it'll be 2 years. As most of you know, I moved over to Germany from Scotland to live with him, and I've been here almost 2 months. It's absolutely amazing, and we're working together to get me a job. Then we'll get our own apartment, and things will only get better. They're pretty awesome right now of course, but our first apartment will really be a milestone towards even bigger things.

[FK4]

Not much in my life, I prefer to be alone.......