Redeemer Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 i am dating garrus vakarian. you may know him. i love him very much and will treasure him always. what a babe... I'm certain your family will be beautiful. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cavemonkynick Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 So I think I'm offically on a break. Shortly after my last post here Bailey and I had it out over the phone for one last time and haven't spoken since. She's receded so far into her shell of denial that I don't think she even knows who she is half the time. After three hours of screaming all of the things left unsaid, it's obvious the girl I loved for all that time dosn't exsist anymore. She's become indiffrent, she wanys attention instead of love. I've learned that her plans after her stationing in Japan are to not re-enlist and move in with her dad up north,which isn't a surprise. If we hadn't started dating when we did, she would have moved up there when she truned 16. But yeah, I'm not even on the market right now. I have a friend and she flirts a lot, but I've made sure that she knows I'm not up for anything serious right now. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redeemer Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 So I think I'm offically on a break. Shortly after my last post here Bailey and I had it out over the phone for one last time and haven't spoken since. She's receded so far into her shell of denial that I don't think she even knows who she is half the time. After three hours of screaming all of the things left unsaid, it's obvious the girl I loved for all that time dosn't exsist anymore. She's become indiffrent, she wanys attention instead of love. I've learned that her plans after her stationing in Japan are to not re-enlist and move in with her dad up north,which isn't a surprise. If we hadn't started dating when we did, she would have moved up there when she truned 16. But yeah, I'm not even on the market right now. I have a friend and she flirts a lot, but I've made sure that she knows I'm not up for anything serious right now. *many hugs* Good on you man. That's the badass I know. Make some time for yourself, do whatever you want and just forget about the people that hurt you. Why don't you draw some more? I remember you were pretty good at it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeroscope Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 Still forever alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redeemer Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 Still forever alone. You mean currently alone. Give it some time, trust me, people have a way of finding each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scourge Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 Still forever alone. You mean currently alone. Give it some time, trust me, people have a way of finding each other. And if not, get to know the girls in your classes, and try to be a bit more social. Trust me, just me doing a scottish accent impression in front of a girl I barely knew is how my Ex-fiance and I started out i am dating garrus vakarian. you may know him. i love him very much and will treasure him always. what a babe... Oh really now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drasiana Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 i am dating garrus vakarian. you may know him. i love him very much and will treasure him always. what a babe... can you and garrus come to my wedding when I marry fenris that'd be cool [faisul facepalming and somberly shaking his head in the distance] 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Orange Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 And if not, get to know the girls in your classes, and try to be a bit more social. Trust me, just me doing a scottish accent impression in front of a girl I barely knew is how my Ex-fiance and I started out Ladies and Gentlemen... The Claw Pickup technique. That has to be the Alpha-ist thing I've seen ever on this forum. But now onto me. Fun situation. Really nice chick. A solid 8/10. Really like theater and enjoys animu and manga. But not as much as theater. Now the average guy here would be like "Yeah this is best woman." Yeah no she's a brick wall. Just to get her attention on a question I had to start singing Oh What a Beautiful Morning to even get a response. Middle of a McDonald singing Oklahoma to which she responded with singing ... the rest of the song. Only then I could ask a question. Sure this is an isolated event but the only way to get her talking is starting with Broadway or something similar. Has any guy here been in a similar situation and can relate or am I just going to wing it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scourge Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 when I marry fenris that'd be cool ????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drasiana Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 Has any guy here been in a similar situation and can relate or am I just going to wing it? You're both weird. Communicate with women only in musical numbers from now on, though, I'm sure that'll make an interesting Youtube video for a passerby with a cellphone. ????? The broodier elfier one. Princely can keep the robots :B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Orange Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 You're both weird. Communicate with women only in musical numbers from now on, though, I'm sure that'll make an interesting Youtube video for a passerby with a cellphone. You have no idea on the struggle I've been through. The struggle is real. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeroscope Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 Scourge gets +2 points in my book for the ME reference. Many zaps. Such robot. Wow. But anyway, I have pretty much accepted not being in a relationship. Its become a normal thing even though every now and then you kind of kick yourself in the rear for it. Its not hard once you come to terms with having never experienced a relationship and accepting the fact I may never experience one. No one seems to be interested in me nor really cares for me or reciprocates my interest. I mean, obviously Im not ugly as sin. My profile pic is proof of that. And I generally dont try to offend someone when first meeting them. Women just dont care for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cavemonkynick Posted February 18, 2014 Share Posted February 18, 2014 *many hugs* Good on you man. That's the badass I know. Make some time for yourself, do whatever you want and just forget about the people that hurt you. Why don't you draw some more? I remember you were pretty good at it. I think that uncolored Dash I sent you on your birthday like two years ago was the last thing I drew lol. Writing is more my forte, and I've started a game channel after watching FAR too much Steve (666theheartless666). Dispite any whining I may do from time to time, it's getting easier and eisier to forget her, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scourge Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Ladies and Gentlemen... The Claw Pickup technique. That has to be the Alpha-ist thing I've seen ever on this forum. I am so calling it that from now on. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chaos_Leader Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 But anyway, I have pretty much accepted not being in a relationship. Its become a normal thing even though every now and then you kind of kick yourself in the rear for it. Its not hard once you come to terms with having never experienced a relationship and accepting the fact I may never experience one. No one seems to be interested in me nor really cares for me or reciprocates my interest. I mean, obviously Im not ugly as sin. My profile pic is proof of that. And I generally dont try to offend someone when first meeting them. Women just dont care for me. As someone who was in the same boat as you for a very, very long time, I can relate, and understand. I too had more or less figured that I probably wasn't going to get a meaningful relationship. It kinda sucks, yes, and sometimes the only way not to be depressed by it is to accept it. But if I may make a recommendation: self pity about your singleness is, most of the time, one of the quickest turn-offs to any potential relationship persons. However, in "accepting" that you're not in a relationship, that your efforts have failed so far, there is another thing that goes with it: not being bothered or concerned by your singleness. Focus on living a good life, being a reasonable and pleasant person to be around. Don't let the thought that you're single and have been for a long time get in the way of that. I can say with confidence that doing what I just described will significantly boost your social appeal. People will be infinitely more interested in you socially if you're pleasant, upbeat, and generally nice to be around than if you're down in depressed self-pity territory. It gives the wrong impression about who you are, and only worsens the problem, I can't say for certain that it'll work for you, but it has worked for me. I did not believe I would be in a meaningful relationship for a very long time. I had given up pursuing one, and as painful as it was, I set that part of me down carried on living. I focused on other things in my life, things I had more control of, like college work at the time. I believe, for me at least, being in that "let whatever happens happen" state of mind helped when the moment finally happened, when I met someone, or that someone met me. Finding someone sometimes has a way of arriving when you least suspect it. You'll know it when it happens. The best I can say is: go with your gut, take that chance when it arrives, but bring a healthy dose of caution with you. Any further advice though wouldn't really be helpful since every situation is different. Well, that's what I got, though it's longer than I expected. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redeemer Posted February 19, 2014 Share Posted February 19, 2014 Trust me, just me doing a scottish accent impression ^ Why I get all the bitches. Also here's food for thought: Imagine all the times you've crushed on someone but never talked to them. Now imagine all the people that crushed on you and never spoke to you. Works both ways, so trust me, stuff needs time to fit into place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeroscope Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 Speaking of which, things sort of changed just recently. A girl from campus approached me and said she was interested. We talked to some and it seems as though we've got some common interests. I'll guess I'll see how it goes from here. Cant really say Im particularly interested because she hasnt offered much, but I guess we'll just have to see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snys93 Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 Its been awhile for me. Call me weird but I like the feeling of butterflies in my gut, it makes me feel alive being with someone that I REALLY like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Shaper Posted February 21, 2014 Share Posted February 21, 2014 I have a boyfriend now but I probably won't stop hitting on everyone. Just making sure you all know the score. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scourge Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 she hasnt offered much ...okay, do you care to elaborate on this part? Cant do much to help ya in that situation if you we dont know how you mean. First dates are often simple. Its getting to know one another a little better before deciding if you're wasting your time or not. If shes still interested after a few dates, and she still likes you after getting to know you, you've got a shot. Cant really say Im particularly interested Ride it out and see where it goes, you may be surprised. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pgpaw3 Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Never had a girlfriend. That's about as far as my love life goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myu Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 Speaking of which, things sort of changed just recently. A girl from campus approached me and said she was interested. We talked to some and it seems as though we've got some common interests. I'll guess I'll see how it goes from here. Cant really say Im particularly interested because she hasnt offered much, but I guess we'll just have to see. I'm not even going to wait for you to explain what you may have meant. I'm going to tell you right now that it sounds like you aren't interested because she didn't approach you with an open sound swinging between her legs. If you didn't mean it? Great, please disregard what comes next. If you did - you're gross and obviously not looking for a relationship and are only interested in getting laid, and you will most likely always be alone if you continue to approach people with this attitude. She's already offering you something HUGE, which is more than can be said for you. The chance to have a meaningful relationship with someone. I'm still happily married uvu Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scourge Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 If you did - you're gross and obviously not looking for a relationship and are only interested in getting laid, and you will most likely always be alone if you continue to approach people with this attitude. She's already offering you something HUGE, which is more than can be said for you. The chance to have a meaningful relationship with someone. I was going to say something like this, but I was gonna give him a chance to clarify. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thu'um Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 I think we owe him a chance to clarify as well. Its the only polite thing to do. I am currently trying to make connections. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gestalt Posted February 23, 2014 Share Posted February 23, 2014 I think I left my pursuits of the heart at high school. What's more, it barely even bothers me. I must not make a habit of it, tho. Oh and I am drawing again. Most intriguing development. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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